Clarity

Taking the negativity out of “Boundaries”

If you are like me, you are constantly looking to improve your life. Most likely, if you are reading this article, you are interested in constant self-improvement. Therefore, I’m sure you have heard about setting boundaries. Boundaries sound tough though, right? That’s because we naturally have a desire to help and compromise for others. So when we hear the term “set boundaries” we immediately take a step back & think it sounds harsh. Recently I’ve begun to look at this differently. I thought perhaps this idea may help you as well.

Instead of saying you are going to set boundaries what if we just focus on having clarity. Do you have clarity in what you want out of life? Who you are? Or who you wish to be? Do you have clarity about the life you want to live? The relationships you wish to have? The work you feel great about doing? If not, let’s dive into that. Clarity is so important. Without clarity, you have no idea what your day, week, month, or years may bring. Sure, it’s great to flow with life as well but without any clarity, you are missing out on so much more. Life is meant to be lived; not just endured. If you are not living the life you want then you need to find your clarity.

The way I work with finding clarity has several steps. You can take all of these steps or some of them or even add your own but a process is very important.

Here’s a daily schedule to add to your normal routine to help you.

Daily meditation
Daily Grateful Journalling
Daily Exercise
Daily Healthy Eating & Drinking Habits

Everyone is unique. Understanding & embracing your uniqueness is the key to success. Stop trying to be someone or something you are not and finally allow yourself to be yourself. Yes, we want to continue to improve but we do not want to take that as a changing ourselves role. The world needs more unique people in this world to bring about lasting change. Investing in yourself is the key to having the life you dream of!

Not sure what you should be doing or who you are? I have a little visualization exercise that can help.

This will require you to find a quiet place where you will have no interruptions. You’ll need at least 30 minutes to complete this activity.

Once you are comfortable, go ahead and close your eyes. Go to someplace you feel at peace. It could be the beach, the forest, a mountain, on a plane, wherever you feel calm & at peace.

Once you are visualizing this place start to think about your ideal life. Think about where you are living, what is the location like? Are you at the same house or a new house? Are the surroundings the same or different? Who is with you? What are you doing? Think about your work. Where do you go each day? Do you work from home? Who do you see in your professional life? What are you doing?

Keep asking yourself questions and really get into feeling it all. What’s the temperature like? Who is around you? What makes you smile?

Sit with that for awhile and just experience it all. Take in your surroundings and smile knowing that you are where you are supposed to be doing what you are meant to do.

Thank yourself for taking you on this journey into your future. Now open your eyes and take a few minutes to write down what you saw. What was it like? How did you feel? Who were you with? What were you doing for work? For fun? Where did you live? And on and on. Write as many details as you can and really add in your feelings as well. This will help you get clear on what you really want to be doing.

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